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It's in Your Head

1/26/2017

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We have all heard the phrase “think good and it will be good.” During challenging times, this is much easier said than done.

A good friend of mine got married a few months ago, after two failed marriages. About once a month, she contacts me to ask if she should end her current marriage after explaining some of the trials and tribulations she is enduring at home. Each month my response is basically the same: everyone has issues and his aren’t worth another divorce. In my latest email to her, I added “if you’re considering divorce as a solution for these problems, your marriage is essentially over. You need to shelve the divorce option, remember how miserable you were as a single in debt, and figure out a way to make this marriage work.”

Of course, not all marriages are meant to pass the test of time. Divorce is a good, healthy option for countless men and women across the globe. However, considering what I know personally about this friend of mine and her new husband (as well as what she’s told me about her ex-husbands), I know that her main problem is not her husband’s issues, but HER mindset. She religiously responds to my e-mails with the same response: “you’re right and thank you.”

In 1952, Norman Peale released his book The Power of Positive Thinking, which remained on the New York Times bestseller list for 186 weeks. It is not a coincidence that it sold about five million copies and has been translated into 15 languages, despite plenty of literary criticism. The basis of his theory is that if a person can consciously think positively, using visualizations and affirmations, his or her life quality will actually increase in a real sense.

I recall one professor teaching my Bar exam review course urged the students to practice visualization as an aid to passing the exam. He said before taking the exam, we should sit for five to ten minutes at a time, close our eyes, and imagine where we will be when we check the Bar exam results. What will we be wearing? Who will be in the room with us? What time of day will it be? Will we check by phone or internet? Then he said, we must envisage passing.

The first few times I tried it, I just felt silly. But, when I learned that I had in fact passed on the first try, I thought, “hmm, maybe there is something to this technique.” I have used positive thinking, visualizations, and affirmations on a personal and professional level and, while they don’t guarantee any results, they certainly can’t hurt.

What’s one of your short-term professional goals? Think about it. And then think about accomplishing it. And keep us posted!

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Lawyer and legal writer, Julie worked primarily in real estate law before focusing her career on the social media and marketing aspects of the legal industry.

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